Thursday, August 21, 2008
If there's anything that bothers people like me it's the fact that we think that we're the only ones left that have stayed somewhat true. We look around and it seems that the rest of the frum world has morphed into one identical bloc with the only difference a different hat or the color of socks. So, after a while, you begin to wonder: אפשר בין איך משוגע און זיי נארמאל? Maybe everything I've been taught is Takeh wrong and everybody else is right? Didn't Reb Chaim Brisker once say that אף א גלייכע וועג טרעפט מען מענטשען? So if I'd be on the Glayche Veg I'd probably find other people too, no? You see my friends, Chassidus isn't brainwashing after all, it allows one to rethink his priorities at any given time and to leave if he so pleases. Most people just choose not to. Anyway. Every once in a while you hear pisgomim and vertlach from chassidim of other Rebbes and you say to yourself "I'm not so bad after all, just look at what these guys believe and in whom they believe!"
Case in point: There's a chassidisher vort (not Chabad) that's Nogeia LeMa'yseh that goes something like this: "Besser Unzer Binyan Vi Zeyer Minyan", which loosely translated means, if you have the choice of davening in either your own shtiebel BeYechidus, or in another Chassidishe shtiebel with a minyan, daven alone in your own shtiebel. I guess the idea is that if you start wandering elsewhere, even if just for a minyan here or there, there's no telling where you'll end up. You might find that the other group is better than yours, has more Lomdim and Yerei Shomayim than yours, or (gasp!) their Rebbe is greater than yours, and that we can't afford. So they tell you that somehow the fact that you daven in your Rebbe's shtiebel makes up for the lack of a minyan, even if the Rebbe is like 6,000 miles away. Oh kayy. Sounds weird, no? Now, truthfully there are Lubavitchers who find it difficult davening elsewhere, as do I, but I push myself, even if it's not easy to do, either because I have a guilty conscience and realize that G-d wants me to hear Kaddish and Kedushah, or because of my kids.
Far Di Kinder.